Bride: “This is my first wedding”

Bride: “This is my first wedding” – what you might need to know!
Bubbles
Disposable cameras
Alternative to Disposable
Wedding planners
Meet and Greet and Testimonials vs. References

Bubbles
I know I’ve touched on this subject before, about bubbles and your wedding, however given it some more thought, and came up with some ideas. That if you are going to have those little bubble containers at your wedding what are you going to do with them? People can blow bubbles when you leave the church, when you leave the beach, or maybe when you get into the limo. These are all great ideas but you might not have considered, during the first dance, or during the parents dances. So long as you don’t have a slippery surface it would make for a more enchanting wedding moment, then without them. It definitely makes for better photos, when you are dancing with your new husband and the music is just right, and then bubbles start to cascade down around you. Talk about memorable. Another point to be aware of is that those bubble containers don’t often come full, they can have some evaporation or some could have leaked out. So when people are blowing they are often spitting near or on you. One idea is to get a bubble machine from Walmart, I picked up one for my photo shoots, and it was only like $20 or so.

Disposable cameras
I seriously don’t think they are worth the time, money or energy that brides think. They are good in theory but here are some things to consider. You might spend anywhere from $5 - $15 on each camera, sometimes forcing you to buy 10 at a time. Before you know it you just added $100 to your budget in cameras. Then you have to processing, you’ll have to take them to a developer, and wait a week or If you pay the money for the 1 hour processing you are looking at another $10 a camera to process, all with the hopes you’ll get some good fun shots. One major drawback with those camera is the flash, as you will often be using them at your reception, maybe around the night time, the flash doesn’t provide all that much light and when you have mom, grandpa, or guest, trying to take photos of you on the dance floor some 15 – 20 feet away, those images might just turn out black. Or what about little “Jimmy or Suzy” running around with it, she might get a fun one, but who knows if it is being used right and you might develop a who camera with some blurry, dark pictures. That is why having a professional photographer stay an extra hour or two might be more worth it to you. They have that more powerful flash that reaches some 15 – 30 feet and they can change their settings to allow for more light in the camera, a feature disposables don’t have.

Alternative to Disposable cameras
Something I have not seen a single bride try to do as of yet. You will know who is coming to your reception mainly because you invited them. Find out what kind of digital camera they have, and buy a memory card for you. Chances are most digital cameras I’ve seen at weddings and receptions are point and shoot cameras that take SD cards. You can run to Staples, Wal-Mart, even find them on line and buy these cares for $7 each. And these memory cards do not need to be that big, maybe 256 megabite would be the minimum to buy, but now a days you can get those 1 gig cards for $7 at staples. What you do is have a designated person, hand out the cards to the guests with the cameras, ask them to take pictures with your memory cards, then when they leave; they drop the card with you before they leave. You have to do this because the biggest problem people have is taking 100 photos, putting it on the computer and forgetting about it. You’ll end up looking like the bad guy, constantly asking “Uncle Bob” or “Best friend Kim” to send you a disk in the mail of your images. This way, you have some 10 memory cards at the end of the night, you pick up a $20 card reader and you take the images with you on your honeymoon.

Important note:
Now I might have talked myself out of a job here, but keep in mind, that point and shoot cameras are still no match to the skill and knowledge a professional photographer will have at your wedding.

The Wedding Planners
If you can factor this money into your budget a wedding planner is the way to go. As this is your first wedding, you could gain a lot of insight and benefit from a wedding planner’s knowledge on weddings. Much like I have years of experience photographing weddings, and I give tips to brides all the time, my knowledge can’t compare to what a planner would know.

Like making sure the cake is situated just right. I’ve seen it happen before when the cake shows up half melted, leaning and looks bad, but a planner would have the foresight to call the venue and make sure they have a place in their freezer to accommodate it and to pull it out at a certain time and keep it cool during the ceremony. That’s a whole thing on to itself that you as a bride don’t want to deal with on your day. I’m sure you’d much rather be thinking about your new husband, having fun, enjoying the friends and family. If you try and do it all yourself, you are going to be worrying about the flowers, making sure the dresses are there on time, making sure everyone gets paid for their services, the whole wedding day time table. The wedding planner is there to be your brain for the day, to think about all the things you don’t want to think about and certainly a whole while investment.

“Meet and Greet” your wedding professionals
Even if you are planning a bit of a destination wedding or something local you should consider meeting with your service providers, Cake makers, wedding planners, photographer, videographer, DJ, Minister, etc. I’m sure that all goes without saying, but some don’t meet with them till the day of the wedding and I often feel it can put a strain on the day if you aren’t careful. Like if you meet with the DJ beforehand you get to chat about the evening’s events and the time line. What if you only email that information over and something got lost in translation, you might anticipate your reception happening one way and the DJ does another. Or not meeting with a wedding officiant, I’ve seen it where the minister called the bride by another name because they had another name on the paper and I’ve seen it mispronounced. You don’t want that on your wedding day.

And to tie into that same topic, ask for references, if they professional say’s to you, “here are my testimonials” that doesn’t tell you anything. Yes they could be true and accurate, but to know for sure, the references are what is going to let you know. A reference will be someone that wedding professional has worked for and can tell you firsthand how they performed. You will find out early if your decision to hire them was a bad move or will put your mind totally at ease as you then found out this person was “Heaven Sent”. Those testimonials could have been embellished or made up or they could be right on the money. You just don’t know.

So these are just my thoughts to you as a bride.
I hope they help.
- Will Vickers